Tuesday, 21 February 2017

Spring has sprung

Hello y'all!

It's been positively balmy around here. I fear that ski season may be coming to a premature end, but I'm happy to see the sunshine. We had a long weekend and instead of going up north to ski, we drove to a beach and ate ice cream. (I was in a jacket: it's not that warm!)

I'm so looking forward to spring this year. I love between Valentine's day and Easter. I guess I'm a Lent kind of girl. I find that the light is bright, the spring fashions are arriving, and everyone feels hopeful since the days are growing longer.

I had to bring home these shoes from J Crew's spring sale in anticipation.



I also picked up another one of these oval clips in the pink lucite (I have the dark tortoise.)



On Saturday, the Mr. and I went to Hamilton to try out Mattson and Co. on Locke Street. What a lovely spot. The food was delicious and I had a terrific viognier. I can't drink red wine but like something a bit more complex that most whites and, for me, a good viognier fits that bill. We chatted briefly with Ronn, the owner. We then snuck over to Detour for their vegan Hello Dolly bar. Because I can't eat egg, I have to skip most restaurant desserts so this was a treat. We also popped into Pure Home. The Vintage Peony candle smells delicious for spring and I love to shop locally.

The rest of the weekend was kid focused with country drives, the auto show, Forza, tv-marathons, shopping, and restaurant visits. If you have a chance to watch the Tiny House doco on Netflix do: it's very good. Ditto for Minimalism and Tony Robbins I Am Not Your Guru. Bring tissues for all of them.

I have to thank Patricia for linking me to the Widower of the Parish columns at the Observer: very relevant and very well written! It's well worth a read even if you don't share his experience. I also finished The Color of Rain. I liked the movie better (which is rare for me!) but it's still a good read.

I've done up a little printable as I practice my design skills. Feel free to download and print!

Have a lovely Tuesday. 

xo




Friday, 17 February 2017

Life's a Party

OK, enough with all the serious. Sometimes, I just want to be lighthearted.

Like these guys.



Seriously, are these two not the laziest dogs ever? They are both old - Sailor is 11 and Serena is 9 - but still! It's nice how they've become good friends. Sailor is Yin to Serena's Yang. They've taken on each other's bad habits and gang up on me when they want food. It's all very adorable. 

I'm getting spring fever and craving some punches of colour. I'm kind of loving J. Crew's newest collection. This is not an affiliate link since I find their affiliate program complicated and I'm really quite lazy. (Update: Someone sent me details of how to make this less complicated so the links might actually work now!) 

This is what I wear in the life I tend to live in my head. 


Love pink tulle ballgown skirt even though it's not even remotely practical for a 45 year old from Stepford. Perhaps I can wear it in Lunenburg...


Loving the Eyelet Dress in Soft Blossom even though Soft Blossom is a weird name for a colour. Blush, people, it's blush! I like the black colour even better, but this post is all about pink. 



Loving this one shoulder number even though I'm sure I'd have to snap my fingers in the air and shout Olé every time I wore it. 


These are positively super looking flats - very Chanel. The Pale Petal is a very pretty colour, I think. They are now on sale and I'd get them if I did not already own 752* pairs of J. Crew ballet flats. 

*number may be a slight exaggeration. 

I hope y'all have a wonderful weekend. If you've not subscribed to the newsletter, please do so in the sidebar on the right. I'll be sending it out tomorrow if the tech gods are kind. 

XO





Thursday, 16 February 2017

The Color of Rain

So just when I was going around mocking a work day filled with Lifetime movies, yesterday I watched The Color of Rain, a made-for-Hallmark movie from 2014. I had it on as background noise while I was watching some graphic design how-to videos, but the story pulled me in.




It's based a memoir written by Michael and Gina Spehn, a widow and a widower who lost their spouses around the same time and were connected by their grief. Within the year, they'd fallen in love and were married.

The movie brought up the opposition the couple encountered and showed how when someone dies, people who've brought over a casserole feel entitled to voice their opinions on how the family moves forward.   

Hardly anyone ever talks about this aspect of widow/widowerhood so it was refreshing to see it onscreen. I've just started reading their memoir since I want to find out more about their story. 



Throughout my life, I've always found it to be such a comfort when I hear someone tell a story that mirrors something happening in my life. I remember as a child, struggling with something and then reading a story in my aunt's copy of Woman's Day magazine that caused me to run into the living room and shout "this is happening to somebody else too." It's not so much about misery loves company, but about the true meaning of empathy, which Brené Brown defines as "communicating that incredibly healing message of 'you're not alone.'"

I loved the message of the film that hard things do not have to define us even when people find it uncomfortable for us to find happiness after loss. We are more than our disappointments and we are more than our scars. We can reframe our narrative any time we want to and find our happily ever after in the end. 

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Wednesday, 15 February 2017

A New Vision


One of the best ways that I find to hit the reset button is to make a new vision board. I've been doing them for years.



I used to do the whole magazine, glue stick, and poster board thing, but I hated how they looked. I finally bought one of those ribbon bulletin boards. You can buy them at HomeSense/HomeGoods or you can channel your inner Martha and make one here. The nice thing about it is that you can add and subtract things as you wish.

I used to have pictures of things I wanted or places I wanted to visit. Now the board is much more about they way I want to feel. It's a literal mood board...

Right now, mine has:

  • some greeting cards/notes from family, friends, and mentors
  • a photo of an older couple dancing at the beach, because #lifegoals
  • a picture of a potential book cover for my next book
  • my core desired feelings for this year
  • a trip I want to take
  • favorite quotes
  • the view from the ocean house

I also have pictures of family tucked in the corners.

I have it over my desk so I can see it every day. Just looking at it makes me feel calm and gives me focus because, without goals, it's way too easy to spend the day watching Lifetime movies.

If you are feeling stuck, try making a vision board and see what happens.

XO